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post #21 of 116 (permalink) Old 11-04-2012, 11:01 AM
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My wife is onboard so long as the money involved doesn't affect the family which I honestly thought was fair enough.

this is a level headed discussed it.. when money is involved its a good practice .. in any relationship communication is the key! sounds like you guys have it all worked out .. and you have a good foundation to your relationship

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post #22 of 116 (permalink) Old 11-04-2012, 11:22 AM
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I have been riding since I was 14 and had bikes when we met so she aint saying crap..She breaks stones about the custom crap & money I spend doing it , but now I just say it was only ......Rule #1 always minus a few hundred Other than that no ball breaking, I come from a bike family and her family rides bikes/dirtbikes. Alls good

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post #23 of 116 (permalink) Old 11-04-2012, 11:31 AM
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My old lady does NOT like my Harley. It did not affect our money situation in any way. I turned a $250 investment into a dirt car I traded for an iroc z that i fixed up and traded for a classic c3 vette that I fixed up and traded for my bike. So I'm well paid for but she fought me all the way. Still jealous of my mistress as she calls it but shes slowly coming around now that shes seen how much money in gas I saved all summer going to work. Might even get to take her for a ride around the block soon.

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You guys are HILARIOUS! I can imagine some of you being doctors and lawyers and other types of professionals, but I can also see some of you being old war vets that are used to just telling it like it is with no remorse and no apology.

My wife did agree to my buying a bike. We did have to come to some terms, but nothing I can't handle.

* I had to give up soft drinks. I'm a major Dr. Pepper/Coke fan. But the amount of money I spent on soft drinks every month is probably half the bike payment.

* The monthly payment cannot be more than $200 a month. The local Harley shop may have to negotiate a little if they want to sell me a bike. The $19,179 Road King I currently have my heart set on may have to move from that number a bit.

* She agreed to let me use our upcoming income tax return as a downpayment. We should be getting about a $3,000 return if I have my math right.

*I'll probably finance for 84 months. Not ideal, but not horrible, either.

RDK09 is right. Gotta respect the dual income thing.

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post #25 of 116 (permalink) Old 11-04-2012, 12:13 PM
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Just do what is right for you and yours. Who gives a rats of what other think. You will find not everyone tells the truth on here. Most do and are willing to help. The others, they're probably a little lonely.
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post #26 of 116 (permalink) Old 11-04-2012, 12:44 PM
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My story has a bit of a twist. My first Harley was actually a bike I bought for her, she never rode it, I couldn't get off of it.... the bike. The big problem came when it was time for a bigger bike. I had the money part worked out, we talked but she'd never let me pull the trigger. She's the type of woman ya just don't wanna p!ss off. Saw my RK, sealed the deal, got a trailer and brought it back. Twas real quiet around the house.... I didn't care. Be well with the fact you might p!ss her off, then go for it, its worth it. True story.

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post #27 of 116 (permalink) Old 11-04-2012, 01:00 PM
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I had a few concessions to make before buying my bike. I had quite smoking and the money I was saving on that was enough to almost cover the bike payment. All other things being equal and no detriment to the family budget, even being a single income I can't wait for her to finish her PhD and start working! Any how, she had no real problem with me buying the bike....and all she wanted put of the deal was for me to not start smoking again....been over half a year already smoke free! (The bike will be paid off first part of next year!)

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post #28 of 116 (permalink) Old 11-04-2012, 01:08 PM
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Can't help you. My wife looked at our current bike when it was at the dealer and told me, "Man, I love that Street Glide! If you don't buy it for us I will." Not to hard to live with an order like that. She's a keeper!

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This is going to sound a little corny, but a motorcycle probably saved our marriage. It was about 4 years ago, and we were really drifting apart. We were pretty much living totally separate lives.

Thinking that maybe if I bought a bike it would be something we could do together I bought a jap cruiser and surprised her with it. She had ridden before, maybe 20 years before so she wasn't completely unfamiliar with bikes. But her response at the time was 'well I hope you enjoy it'. So I did. Rode it all over the place for about 3-4 months before she finally decided to give it a try and go for a ride with me. She kind of wrote it off as 'ok, no big deal', but slowly she wanted to ride more and more. A couple of years later we bought the Limited and so far have put on 30,000 miles, maybe 90% of that two-up.

The marriage isn't perfect but it is a lot better today.
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post #30 of 116 (permalink) Old 11-04-2012, 01:16 PM
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I have wanted a Harley for years but even though I have talked about it since we met and often in the last 9 years she wasn't interested in me getting a bike. She would set goals like when your salary hits this marker and then change it or when I turn 40 and then change it. Ultimately she was concerned about my safety and finances.
In the end it came down to two things. 1 I had to promise to take the BRC rider safety course and 2 I had to put as much money towards paying off debt as I did for the bike. I was finally able to do both so now our nut is a little smaller every month and my ride is in the garage. Guess it just means more $$ available for gas!?!

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