Your Spouse and Your Bike - Harley Davidson Forums: Harley Davidson Motorcycle Forum is an independent enthusiast website owned and operated by VerticalScope Inc. is not sponsored by or in any way affiliated with Harley-Davidson Inc.. The Harley Davidson names and logos are trademarks owned by Harley-Davidson Inc.

Go Back   Harley Davidson Forums: Harley Davidson Motorcycle Forum > General Forum > General Motorcycle Related

» Insurance
» Our Partners
»ATV Reviews
»Motorcycle Games
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 11-04-2012, 08:12 AM   #1 (permalink)
Senior Member
Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: wilmington, nc
Posts: 120
Your Spouse and Your Bike

Anyone have to make "the pitch" to your wife about why you should buy a Harley? Any strategies that worked/failed/recommended/don't do unless you are tired of life?

My wife is onboard so long as the money involved doesn't affect the family which I honestly thought was fair enough. I've already made some concessions that were easy enough that will more than make up for a $175 a month Harley payment. But I thought I would ask, out of curiousity, what other guys have been through.

Yeah, yeah, I know some of you dudes on here just put your foot down and laid down the law and others of you have wives that are more hard-core about riding than you are - count your lucky stars. But for the rest of us "normal" guys who have wives that make as much money as we do, have a college education like we do, are on more even footing in the marriage, and could probably care less about something like a Harley, how did you handle the big discussion?

JamesNT is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 11-04-2012, 08:17 AM   #2 (permalink)
Grandstanding Member
Dave63's Avatar
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: PA
Posts: 29,803
Easier to ask for forgiveness, than permission.......

Financial, when married, is always a consideration. My wife would never come home with a $250 month expense, without asking me.

There's no stratagy, IMHO, other than being honest and up front.

I had many bikes before this one, so it was kind of a replacement of sorts.

There's been more bikes in my garage in the last 10 years, that it;s hard to keep track of what's mine, ours, his, theirs or just being fixed.

I guess that's an advantage.
“When the going gets weird, the weird turn professional....” ~ Hunter S. Thompson~

R.I.P. Rubberdown. 1971-2012
Dave63 is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 11-04-2012, 08:19 AM   #3 (permalink)
Senior Member
Join Date: May 2009
Location: Cape Cod, MA
Posts: 1,616
Images: 3
My wife made it simple, either her or the motorcycle...needless to say, I bought my first Harley, Softail Deluxe...never looked back!
marion is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 11-04-2012, 08:37 AM   #4 (permalink)
Senior Member
Mad Dog 64's Avatar
Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: Summerville, SC
Posts: 574
It's kind kind of interesting. My wife wanted a cat. I wanted a Harley. I let her have a cat and I got the bike. I have had the bike since last February and she has yet to really look at it. She said that she will never ride on it nor can I take the kids on a ride. We did go to Daytona for a couple of days this year for bike week and plan to go again in 2013 so she doesn't completely oppose the idea of a bike. A couple of months back I lost my job and as I was looking at finances to get by until I found a new job. I told her that the bike would be the first thing that had to go. She said no... The bike would be a last resort if things got really bad.

I guess what I am saying is that I found out what her "button" was and the rest is easy.

By the way. I was out of work for only 5 weeks and never had to sell the bike.

Sent from my iPhone using App
Mad Dog 64 is online now   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 11-04-2012, 08:37 AM   #5 (permalink)
Junior Member
Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: New York
Posts: 11

My wife loves too ride and is on board as long as it doesn't adversely affect the family budget.
Kbart1952 is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 11-04-2012, 08:40 AM   #6 (permalink)
Bikeless....for now!
RDK09's Avatar
Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: PA
Posts: 5,112
Nowadays ya need 2 incomes to survive and ya gotta respect that!!
"09" Road King
"10" Forty-Eight
RDK09 is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 11-04-2012, 08:55 AM   #7 (permalink)
Senior Member
Join Date: May 2012
Location: Stagger Mountain , La.
Posts: 111
it may help you if you promise to postpone starting to buy all

your riding clothes , chrome, and other neat bling thing extras, 'till Christmas.
Ralph in La. is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 11-04-2012, 09:09 AM   #8 (permalink)
THE Yuppie Outlaw
Diezel's Avatar
Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: Chicago - ish
Posts: 9,819
Images: 23
I traded my corvette for the first bike even up. It was good because she hated the car. Took her for a couple rides. Loved being on the back, but hated the pillion on the Badlander seat. Made the move up to the Road King that much easier to swallow.

Sent from my iPhone using App
Diezel is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 11-04-2012, 09:15 AM   #9 (permalink)
Earthbound misfit, I
Labradaddy's Avatar
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: East Texas/NW Louisiana
Posts: 2,448
Images: 22
My house, my rules..... don't like it? There is the door.

Contemplating the silent freeway....
Labradaddy is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 11-04-2012, 09:16 AM   #10 (permalink)
ltrhdevo's Avatar
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: USA
Posts: 1,512
Images: 42
Picked the wife up hitch hiking in 73 with a Harley, what do you think how she feels ?
knuckle buster


ltrhdevo is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

Quick Reply

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Harley Davidson Forums: Harley Davidson Motorcycle Forum forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:
Motorcycle (s)
What type of bike (s) do you have
Where you live
Date of Birth
Your date of birth and age are displayed in several places on the forum. Only the administrator will have access to your date of birth should you choose to hide it via the privacy option below.
Month Day Year


Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

Powered by vBadvanced CMPS v3.2.2

All times are GMT -5. The time now is 03:25 AM.

Powered by vBulletin® Copyright ©2000 - 2015, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.6.0
Garage Plus vBulletin Plugins by Drive Thru Online, Inc.
This site is in no way affiliated with Harley-Davidson
Motorcycle News, Videos and Reviews
Honda Grom Forum Harley Davidson Forum Honda 600RR Forum Kawasaki Forum Yamaha R6 Forum Yamaha FZ-09 Forum
1199 Panigale Forum Honda Africa Twin Forum Roadglide Forum Honda CBR1000 Forum Vulcan Forum Yamaha R1 Forum Yamaha R3 Forum
Ducati Monster Forum Harley Forums Honda CBR250R Forum ZX10R Forum Star Raider Forum Yamaha Viking Forum
Suzuki GSXR Forum V-Rod Forums Honda Shadow Forum Kawasaki Motorcycle Forum Star Warrior Forum KTM Duke 390 Forum
SV650 Forum BMW S1000RR Forum Honda Fury Forum Kawasaki Versys Forum Drag Racing Forum Ducati 899 Panigale Forum
Suzuki V-Strom BMW K1600 Triumph Forum Victory Forums Sportbikes BMW NineT Forum
Volusia Forum BMW F800 Forum Triumph 675 Forum MV Agusta Forum HD Street Forum Suzuki GW250 Forum
Yamaha Motorcycles Victory Gunner Forum Victory Charger Forum Honda Vultus Forum HD LiveWire Forum Ninja H2 Forum
BMW Scrambler Forum Ducati Scrambler Forum Kawasaki Ninja 250SL Forum