Freaking out on the kickstand setup is normal. Did it in 84 with my first Harley. After over 13 years you would think I`d get used to it.
But was even more paranoid when I got my 98 FLHT. Was sure it was going over on several occasions. Never did.
As said. Leave it in gear. Make sure it has rolled forward to a stop. Using you foot be sure the kickstand is in it`s locked position. Bike won`t go anywhere.
As loose as it may feel I have laid on my bikes using this technique. Even with my added weight and some gear in the bags and a bedroll on the handlebars neither bike ever went anywhere.