No headlight relay on that bike, but as you said, the blue wire from the "Lights" fuse powers the dimmer switch in the handlebar control.Check the headlight relay.
From memory, the headlight gets power from the blue wire in the hi/lo switch. The blue wire powers the white or yellow wire depending on the switch position.
What do you mean "show a ground"?All looks good at headlight but both the yellow and white wires when ohm tested show a ground with battery disconnected.
If the system is working properly it should read the same with the headlight on or off.Put bulb back in (new dealer bulb) and battery reads with bike running 12.5 if brakes applied or passing lights turn on battery continues to drop to 12.3, at this point shouldn't the battery read in the 13's like it did with bulb removed and wouldn't this tell me something is grounding in the lighting circuit.